4 Essential Questions to Ask Intended Parents
4 Essential Questions to Ask Intended Parents
One of the most vital steps in becoming a gestational carrier is finding intended parents that are a perfect match for you. As you begin your gestational surrogacy journey, you might feel an overwhelming uncertainty of what to expect. It is important that when you decide to become a gestational carrier, you have done it with a sound mind, clear of any doubts and questions. Vocalizing your thoughts in this matter is very important. You’ll want to make sure that the intended parents you choose are the right fit for you. One of the best ways to determine this is by asking the right questions. Asking questions will help you see whether or not all the pieces in the puzzle will fall into place.
We at Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Las Vegas care about you, and we want to make sure all of your questions are taken care of. Here are some examples of questions you might want to ask before making a decision.
Why are you considering gestational surrogacy?
This question is one of the most important ones you will have to make when considering becoming a gestational carrier. It will help shed light on the situation and help you understand where the intended parents are coming from, and what brought them to consider gestational surrogacy. Knowing the reason behind their desire to become a parent and what future they want to build with their child can help you feel comfortable and confident about your decision.
What will be the dynamic in our relationship?
Virginia Frank, an adoption and surrogacy lawyer, says that a relationship between you, the gestational carrier, and the intended parents is key in trusting one another. Like in any relationship, trust is one of the most important things there is. You have to feel comfortable with the people you will be sharing the next nine months of your life. And they have to feel confident that the person they have chosen to carry their unborn child is taking care of herself and the baby.
Keep in mind that every relationship is different. Some intended parents will bring you into their lives and treat you as if you were their family. Others would prefer to keep things more detached and only focus on their child. There is no right or wrong way about how the dynamic should be.
You can offer to keep a journal for them so that they may experience a closeness with their child that they are unable to experience any other way.
Do your family and friends know you are considering gestational surrogacy? Are they supportive of your decision?
This question can help you get a better sense of the community and support system the intended parents have. You want to know what kind of environment you are getting yourself into. Pregnancy can be overwhelming, and you want to know that your potential match is not surrounded by negativity and tension. Having friends and family onboard can help bring a positive mood to the situation. Which can go a long way in making sure the pregnancy is successful.
Do you have any questions for me?
Once you have made sure all of your questions are being taken care of, offer the intended parents the opportunity to do the same. You’ll want to offer them the same courtesy to get to know you as well. The questions they ask you might be similar to the ones you have made, so take the time to prepare yourself before meeting them.
It is important that you feel comfortable with the intended parents and that you get along well together. While getting to know them, keep an eye out for any red flags that might not align with your expectations of the gestational journey. You want to make sure that the intended parents are someone you can trust and can feel secure about. Be sure to get everything out in the open and have all your doubts answered even if they are difficult. If you feel like your questions are not being answered properly or if they do not seem as interested in getting to know you, then don’t hesitate to let your caseworker know and help you find a more suitable match.
Note for gestational carriers.
It’s only natural to want to know more about the people whose baby you will be carrying. Why do they want to become parents? What is their expectation for the process? What are the building blocks of the family? Overall, you want to make sure that even though the child you will be carrying is not yours, he or she will be going to a loving and supportive family.
Remember to always trust your instincts and make sure that the potential match that you choose is the perfect one for you.
Stay positive and take care of yourself!
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